Dementia and Alzheimer's are both really rough on the loved ones of the ill. It makes them feel guilty for not being around, but at the same time, spares them of the frustration and anguish of trying to explain who they are and what year it is for the entirety of a visit only for it to be entirely likely that the person remains confused anyway despite the effort. I wouldn't wish those slowly deteriorating conditions of the mind on anyone or their families, it's a very hard row to hoe.Frislander wrote: ↑26 Dec 2017 20:24So I just found out a couple of hours ago that my last remaining relative of my grandparents's generation (my maternal grandfather) has terminal pneumonia and could be gone within the week. I'm taking it really quite well, though I know I'm gonna be in tears at the actual funeral. Me and my brother have pretty firmly told our mum we didn't want to go see him before he goes, just because he basically has dementia anyway and the combination of that and the morphine means he probably wouldn't even register our presence. In fact the dementia means this is kind of an answered prayer really, because we knew he was going downhill and we'd wished he'd die earlier and spare us the grief of a prolonged loss of mental faculties (the last time she visited him with her sisters my mum told me he forgot his eldest daughter was married during the course of the visit).
Regardless, I hope his passing goes as easily for everyone involved as is possible and I am sorry to hear of your impending loss. :'(